True Love Relationship Coaching

What a difficult day. I’m leaning sideways, trying to regain my (emotional) equilibrium. I love the saying, “This too shall pass.” No matter how happy you may be, it changes. No matter how sad, you cannot stay there forever. Our emotional states change. If they did not, we wouldn’t be able to stand the intensity of whatever emotion is present at the moment.

I am a psychotherapist by training and I have a lot of experience working with couples, helping them improve their interactions with each other. Over the course of working with hundreds of couples, I would hear, “I bet you never get angry” or “You probably never fight with your husband.”

It always amazed me to hear this and I would respond truthfully that we did argue and we did have conflict. After all, we are two different people with two different brains. We don’t always think alike. And just because I have the skills doesn’t mean that I apply them perfectly every time.

I don’t “do therapy” on my husband. I do, however, bring my knowledge and skill to bear when we are in conflict.  I have found that it helps me stop and reflect about my own behavior when I am sure I am “right” about something. It helps me to examine my motives for saying things to “win” the argument.  Sometimes my knowledge humbles me when I realize that I am acting in a way that is so totally opposite of a self-aware person.

The good thing about having the skills of a psychotherapist is that I can continue to work on my own self-improvement.  After a session in which my clients have learned a new relationship skill, I predict that they will have a conflict and be tempted to return to their previous way of relating. I assure them that they can work through whatever conflict they have and that they are in the process of growth, which is never a straight and easy path.

If you would like to work on your growth path, give me a holler. I’m a human being who has been there and I am ready to help you create that passion that you crave in your relationship! Start with my free report on the Seven Deadly Habits, how they can destroy your relationship, and what you can do instead: http://trueloverelationshipcoaching.com.