True Love Relationship Coaching

Response from a reader of the Facilidating program.

“I think that I already do most of the things listed and I have to say that they work very well. I am lucky that I have the confidence to be at ease with a woman and since I am usually not very nervous, conversation comes easily. When I feel confident, it allows my energy to “flow” which automatically displays my strength. I am also not afraid of rejection as I was in sales for years and had to learn to accept “no” on occasion. I realize that women, like men, have their likes and dislikes and that I may not be what she wants, no matter how charming I think I am.

I have also found that being “myself” is key as when I try to act different than I feel, it shows. Having said that, if I were not feeling well on a date and I really liked the woman, I would gently push my way through the night, hopefully without diminished confidence.

Visualization IS so important, I agree. It has become part of my being to visualize prior to almost any experience and I can honestly say that seeing myself as calm and collected helps me feel more confident and therefore calm and collected.

Eye contact – so important! When a man can look a woman in the eyes, he shows that he is strong and confident; I know from experience women like this.

It is interesting how a conversation can go toward negativity in a flash. If one person brings up something negative, let’s say politics, someone must be on guard and rescue the conversation from becoming a bitching session. I have become that person, but only after several bad learning experiences. Practice really does make perfect.

I think when you have the confidence and you know she feels it from you, it is much easier to talk about yourself without “tooting your own horn”. I do not give out too much information, only enough to wet her appetite. In the future I will use some of the “flirty” responses in the lessons to add even more “relaxation” to my dates.

Many times I risk being seen as “uncool” because of the conversation starters that I use. Even if what I say is silly, the fact that I can say it with a smile and while looking into a woman’s eyes either means I am a sociopath or I comfortable with myself; I prefer the latter!”

Thanks,  Mitch from Huntington Beach