Archive for September, 2010
Webinar: 14 dating traps and how to avoid them
September 15th, 2010 | 
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What if 2010 is your year to find, attract, and keep the one for you?
- Do you want to stop getting into relationships that are all wrong for you?
- Are you ready to get it right this time around?
- Are you widowed or divorced and cautiously putting a toe in the dating pool again?
Sign up here. Read the rest of this entry »
Ruled by feelings?
Are you in charge of your feelings or are they in charge of you? Your feelings are created by your thoughts, so take a moment to figure out what you are thinking. There’s nothing wrong with feelings, but they don’t just pop out of nowhere.
Often when you take the time to explore what has been happening in your day and what you think about the events, you will be able to pinpoint the reasons for the feelings.
You’re less likely to snap at those you love when you are in charge of your feelings.
Join me for my free weekly Ask Michelle Anything webinar and ask me any question that’s on your mind about relationships. That’s right. Anything. Go to http://askmichelleanything.com and sign up.
I don’t feel like it!
Do the action first and you will feel better; if you wait until you “feel” like it you will never create the change in your emotional state. If you are in a relationship and interested in making some changes for the better, check this out: True Love Relationship Coaching Webinars for Couples (or half of the couple if your spouse won’t participate) to help you improve your relationship one step at a time.
Creating Happily Ever After
Has your marriage fallen into a predictable, boring pattern?
Do you revisit old arguments that have no easy resolutions, yet you keep hashing and rehashing them, until you could just scream?
Do you sometimes wonder what life would be like if you didn’t have to live with the man you once adored? Read the rest of this entry »
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Tags: bad relationship habits, change yourself, co-create a passionate relationship, commitment, conflicts in marriage, fix my marriage, help my marriage, help your marriage, marriage, relationship skills, relationship training, Relationships, save my marriage | 
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Ask Michelle Anything
I encourage you to take advantage of these weekly webinars. Ask me anything!
Instant Gratification
A few words about instant gratification and how holding this as an important value can harm your relationship.
Marriage Maintenance
My two cents on how marriage maintenance can help your marriage to thrive and expanding your relationship tool box.
From the desk of Michelle E. Vásquez
What’s New?
Do you have what it takes to create a successful marriage? Emotional
maturity is something some folks never accomplish, no matter how many
years they live. I propose that immaturity, self-centered behavior, and
the desire for instant gratification are three reasons why marriages
fail. All of these behaviors combined with the attitude of “if it does
not work out, we will just go our separate ways” contribute to a high
divorce rate.
What is emotional immaturity? Some people live by
the maxim, “I may grow old, but I refuse to grow up.” This may be
humorous when seen on a T-shirt, but when people take this attitude into
their marriages, they are setting themselves and their relationship up
for misery. This does not mean that you have to be serious all the time;
far from it. It just means that you cannot allow your emotions to rule
you and to affect how you behave toward your spouse.
Self-centered behavior is not the same as taking care of yourself.
You must take care of yourself if you are going to be fully present for
your loved ones. No, being self-centered or selfish is all about the “me
first” attitude. “My needs are more important than yours” is the rally
cry of the self-centered person. A self-centered person tends to
criticize and blame rather than looking at her/his own behavior. A
self-centered person sees nothing wrong with manipulating her spouse to
get her way. A self-centered person thinks nothing of putting his family
in danger by drinking and driving.
What about instant gratification? Since the advent
of fast food, we seem to have become more of an instant gratification
society. “I want it in 30 seconds and I want it hot and tasty and
inexpensive.” For some people, if everything is not perfect and to their
liking, they tend to resort to complaints about their marriage. They
think of their marriage like fast food instead of fine dining. It
becomes a disposable commodity instead of something to be treasured and
enjoyed.
Marriage requires maintenance to make it successful. It will require
extra work if you are engaging in these damaging behaviors. The good
news is that you, too, can create a happier marriage if you are willing
to begin with yourself. Are you willing to put in the time and energy to
help your marriage become a strong one? If so, you can do it. You do
not have to do it alone; relationship coaching can help.
Have you gotten your e-book/audio?
Ten Secrets for Creating the Marriage of Your Dreams.
