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On the subject of marriage:

You and I are like two little kids walking down the same road. We choose to keep the same pace so that we remain side by side. We like each other’s company and, besides, walking side-by-side has the added benefit that when either one of us trips, the other is there to help. Isn’t that the whole point?

Adalberto Vásquez, 1945-2007

If you have one or more girlfriends you spend time with, chances are, you talk about your relationships when you get together. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your joys and troubles. If you have a girlfriend who is in a particularly difficult relationship, you may feel sorry for her, exasperated by her behavior, and even want to give her significant other a piece of your mind at times.

Before you jump on the bandwagon to support her story without reservations, remember there Read the rest of this entry »

When a couple falls in love and decides to marry, neither one is thinking about how to make each other miserable “till death do us part.” Sadly, and way too often, instead of the fairy tale ending of “happily ever after,” the two, once they become one, begin a collision course with disaster instead of an eternal honeymoon. Read the rest of this entry »

Are you committed "for better or worse"?

What does commitment in marriage meant to you? Many comedians have joked about commitment, saying things like, “If you want to be married, you need to be committed…to a mental institution, that is.”

Why is commitment to a marriage so difficult these days? I blame it on the fast food industry.  Read the rest of this entry »

What if you were suddenly alone?

You may not know this, but I am creating a new focus. I am shifting from working with couples (and single women over 40) and narrowing my focus to widows and widowers who want to find love again after loss. As I transition into this new niche, I want to tell you something I read recently, because it applies to people in relationships.

I opened the book Widowed by Dr. Joyce Brothers and read about Read the rest of this entry »

Love is the ability to understand that in addition to “for better or worse” there is “for excitement and boredom.” Being married is often mundane, but loving that person you are with and being excited to see him/her every day is a wonderful thing and can be sustained indefinitely. Read the rest of this entry »

You’ve heard the expression “It takes two to tango.”  It usually refers to the idea that when something goes wrong in relationships, both parties are responsible. Too often when couples are in conflict, they tend to blame each other for their troubles. In doing so, they risk passing up learning something that will help them improve their relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

What a difficult day. I’m leaning sideways, trying to regain my (emotional) equilibrium. I love the saying, “This too shall pass.” No matter how happy you may be, it changes. No matter how sad, you cannot stay there forever. Our emotional states change. If they did not, we wouldn’t be able to stand the intensity of whatever emotion is present at the moment. Read the rest of this entry »

You have seen the shows or at least the commercials about “Bridezillas,” women who become total monsters during their wedding planning just so they can have the “perfect day” they have always dreamed of.  Grant it, wedding planning can be very stressful, especially if you want a large wedding and you have no experience doing event planning.  That is why I would recommend you hire a wedding planner unless you plan on having a small wedding (under 30 people) or you decide to elope.

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When I was 27 I divorced a good man for all the wrong reasons: mostly because I was young, dumb, had no faith in my relationship, and had no real relationship skills to speak of. Having made my choice, I began the process of seeking a man that would be right for me.  I thought I was ready for a relationship, so I dove right into the dating scene.

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