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I have been so focused on getting my upcoming book written and edited that I’ve neglected my blog. The new book is about relationships, of course. It is a compilation of my 18 years of practice as a therapist and relationship coach.

Basically, what you’ll find in this book is very practical tips and tools that you Read the rest of this entry »

Defining ourselves and the world around us helps us to understand ourselves. It can also limit us. Putting labels on situations and pigeon-holing them locks us into a narrow way of thinking.

Be careful when you decide that you “know” something. Not knowing is an open state, but deciding that you know for sure what something Read the rest of this entry »

When I was in college I lived very near my grandparents and I would visit them often after classes. A curious thing began to happen as I spent time alone with my grandmother. She began to confide in me, as she never had before, about her disagreements with my grandfather. I was 18 years old and this was quite strange to me. Read the rest of this entry »

Are you in charge of your feelings or are they in charge of you? Your feelings are created by your thoughts, so take a moment to figure out what you are thinking. There’s nothing wrong with feelings, but they don’t just pop out of nowhere.

Often when you take the time to explore what has been happening in your day and what you think about the events, you will be able to pinpoint the reasons for the feelings.

You’re less likely to snap at those you love when you are in charge of your feelings.

Join me for my free weekly Ask Michelle Anything webinar and ask me any question that’s on your mind about relationships. That’s right. Anything. Go to http://askmichelleanything.com and sign up.

I encourage you to take advantage of these weekly webinars. Ask me anything!

A few words about instant gratification and how holding this as an important value can harm your relationship.

My two cents on how marriage maintenance can help your marriage to thrive and expanding your relationship tool box.

On the subject of marriage:

You and I are like two little kids walking down the same road. We choose to keep the same pace so that we remain side by side. We like each other’s company and, besides, walking side-by-side has the added benefit that when either one of us trips, the other is there to help. Isn’t that the whole point?

Adalberto Vásquez, 1945-2007

If you have one or more girlfriends you spend time with, chances are, you talk about your relationships when you get together. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your joys and troubles. If you have a girlfriend who is in a particularly difficult relationship, you may feel sorry for her, exasperated by her behavior, and even want to give her significant other a piece of your mind at times.

Before you jump on the bandwagon to support her story without reservations, remember there Read the rest of this entry »

When a couple falls in love and decides to marry, neither one is thinking about how to make each other miserable “till death do us part.” Sadly, and way too often, instead of the fairy tale ending of “happily ever after,” the two, once they become one, begin a collision course with disaster instead of an eternal honeymoon. Read the rest of this entry »