Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’
From the desk of Michelle E. Vásquez
September 2nd, 2010 | 
Author: What’s New?
Do you have what it takes to create a successful marriage? Emotional
maturity is something some folks never accomplish, no matter how many
years they live. I propose that immaturity, self-centered behavior, and
the desire for instant gratification are three reasons why marriages
fail. All of these behaviors combined with the attitude of “if it does
not work out, we will just go our separate ways” contribute to a high
divorce rate.
What is emotional immaturity? Some people live by
the maxim, “I may grow old, but I refuse to grow up.” This may be
humorous when seen on a T-shirt, but when people take this attitude into
their marriages, they are setting themselves and their relationship up
for misery. This does not mean that you have to be serious all the time;
far from it. It just means that you cannot allow your emotions to rule
you and to affect how you behave toward your spouse.
Self-centered behavior is not the same as taking care of yourself.
You must take care of yourself if you are going to be fully present for
your loved ones. No, being self-centered or selfish is all about the “me
first” attitude. “My needs are more important than yours” is the rally
cry of the self-centered person. A self-centered person tends to
criticize and blame rather than looking at her/his own behavior. A
self-centered person sees nothing wrong with manipulating her spouse to
get her way. A self-centered person thinks nothing of putting his family
in danger by drinking and driving.
What about instant gratification? Since the advent
of fast food, we seem to have become more of an instant gratification
society. “I want it in 30 seconds and I want it hot and tasty and
inexpensive.” For some people, if everything is not perfect and to their
liking, they tend to resort to complaints about their marriage. They
think of their marriage like fast food instead of fine dining. It
becomes a disposable commodity instead of something to be treasured and
enjoyed.
Marriage requires maintenance to make it successful. It will require
extra work if you are engaging in these damaging behaviors. The good
news is that you, too, can create a happier marriage if you are willing
to begin with yourself. Are you willing to put in the time and energy to
help your marriage become a strong one? If so, you can do it. You do
not have to do it alone; relationship coaching can help.
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Ten Secrets for Creating the Marriage of Your Dreams.
From the desk of Michelle E. Vásquez
I’m doing something new and you get to be the first to see it. That is, unless you are receiving this message as a plain text email. If what you see looks like a page of my web site, then you are seeing the newthing I’m up to today. Read the rest of this entry »My late husband’s musings on marriage
On the subject of marriage:
You and I are like two little kids walking down the same road. We choose to keep the same pace so that we remain side by side. We like each other’s company and, besides, walking side-by-side has the added benefit that when either one of us trips, the other is there to help. Isn’t that the whole point?
Adalberto Vásquez, 1945-2007
Deal-breaker trinity
Choose your life partner carefully
If you are seeking a relationship you need to understand your Requirements for a happy, successful relationship at the very beginning of your search for the one for you. It is also important that you be judicious in selecting your Requirements. Read the rest of this entry »
Dating confusion? Relationship questions?
If you are single and struggling to figure out the new and ever-changing world of dating, you’ve come to the right place. If you have been in a series of unsuccessful relationships, welcome. If your relationship is fraught with conflict, I’m glad you have come here.
- Are you a woman who wonders why you keep attracting jerks?
- Are you a man who is stuck in the friend zone with Read the rest of this entry »
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Tags: coaching for couples, coaching for singles, dating, relationship coaching, Relationships | 
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From Single to Married: What I Learned on My Journey
When I was 27 I divorced a good man for all the wrong reasons: mostly because I was young, dumb, had no faith in my relationship, and had no real relationship skills to speak of. Having made my choice, I began the process of seeking a man that would be right for me. I thought I was ready for a relationship, so I dove right into the dating scene.
Insecure Partner Drains Relationship: Practical Ideas to Reduce Jealousy
If you have been living with a jealous partner for any length of time, you are probably tired of constantly explaining and defending yourself, especially if you are innocent of the charges that you are cheating. Jealousy in a relationship is about fear of loss and can range from mild to severe feelings. Many articles address how to overcome your own feelings of jealousy. But what if you are the one who is on the receiving end of jealous behavior?
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Tired of the Conflict and Pain?
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Marriages in Trouble: Beliefs and Habits that Hurt Your Marriage
Does this sound familiar?
- I do everything around here
- You’re not the same person I married
- If you loved me you would…
If you are in a long-term relationship, you can probably relate to all of these statements. The problem is that they are beliefs and habits that can Read the rest of this entry »
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Tags: bad relationship habits, help your marriage, marriage, Relationships |
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The Women Men Adore and Never Want to Leave
I am an affiliate for Bob Grant’s e-book The Women Men Adore…And Never Want to Leave. I bought this book 2 years ago and read it from beginning to end in one sitting. I was so excited to learn what Bob had to say that I could not put it down. After I read through it hastily, I went back to absorb it more thoroughly.
If you are a woman wondering why you cannot make a go of a relationship, I highly recommend this book. Learn more here.