Archive for September, 2010

Bad Relationships Gone Good

I was divorced at age 27 from a good man. Would you be surprised that despite having completed a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology, I knew next to nothing about creating a happy relationship for myself? That understanding came years later.

You may be in the same boat I was all those years ago. In your work you may be an effective Read the rest of this entry »

Seek to Understand Yourself First as a Single Person

When I was in my late 20′s, freshly out of a divorce from a good husband I left out of ignorance and immaturity, I was determined that I was going to find a new relationship with a great man. I thought I knew it all (you thought teenagers knew it all, but I carried that arrogance into my 20′s) and having recently graduated with my Masters in Counseling Psychology, I was convinced I needed to seek a Read the rest of this entry »

Find and keep the one for you!

Conscious Dating: Relationship Success Training for Singles

For Finding the Love of your Life and the Life that you Love

Stage One: Readiness
3 week training on Wednesdays, 5:00-7:00 PM, October 6 to October 20, 2010 Read the rest of this entry »

Don’t psychoanalyze me!

No one likes to be told they do something because of some particular reason. It’s great to read self-improvement books and to learn to understand yourself better while you improve your behaviors.

Be careful to avoid diagnosing others as you improve yourself, especially during an argument. It is highly unlikely that you are going to hear the person you are “diagnosing” (without the proper education and training) is going to say, “Wow, I never realized that. Thank you for putting a mental illness label on me.”

Instead, learn what you can to help you interact better with the ones you love. Remember, you can only change yourself. My couples webinars may be just what you are looking for to help you reconnect and create your happy, successful relationship.

Need to be independent

I’m going to step out  on a limb here and say that independence is over-rated. It’s great to be self-sufficient, but if you are going to create a loving relationship, inter-dependence seems to fit better as far as I can tell.

I know you are a strong woman and you can do anything a man can do. The beauty for me, being in a relationship, is that I don’t have to do all those things myself. I can let myself be helped when there are things that are hard for me to do. I don’t have to be strong all the time.

I would love your thoughts in the box below. And I’d love to invite you to my free weekly webinar, Ask Michelle Anything. Sign up here.

Love me just as I am

Yes, it is so important to be accepted for who you are. My question to you is this: are you holding onto some bad habits that are not really “who you are” but are defenses you developed in childhood that may no longer serve you?

Another question to ask yourself is this: am I willing to accept someone else’s bad behavior? If not, then it is time for some self-examination. When dating, you work on becoming your best “you” so that you can attract the best possible partner.

You don’t have to give up your best self to be accepted, but you may need to modify or get rid of some habits that keep you from finding and keeping the one for you.

Join my monthly webinar on the 14 dating traps to learn more. I’ll send you a remind for when the next one is coming up!

But I’m right! Arguments and consequences

Even if you are right, are you willing to risk winning the argument only to lose the relationship? Consider the consequences of allowing your ego to get into an argument that will cost you the love you need.

Making a Happier Marriage Today: Ten Secrets for Creating the Marriage of your Dreams

Face to Face contact so important

Face to face contact with those you love is necessary to thrive

My life has been quite different since I moved to California at the tail end of 2008. I haven’t seen my mother or grandmother in 2 years. I last saw my sister during Christmas. I am so blessed to be visiting with 4 generations of my family at once in just a few days!

Do you sometimes feel disconnected from loved ones? I know that technology helps to connect us in ways that were not possible even 50 years ago, much less 200 years.

I’m a Jane Austen fanatic. I love the romance of Read the rest of this entry »

Ask Michelle Anything

Do you have a burning question about dating? Marriage? Being single? Divorce? Widowhood? Finding love again after loss? Making your good marriage great? Troubles with inlaws? Sexual frustrations?

Whatever your question about relationships, Michelle Vasquez would love to answer them. The Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage and Persistence

Do you have what it takes to create a lasting marriage? Do you give up at the first sign of difficulties? People who are “stubbornly persistent” and hang in there during difficult times are often rewarded with better marriages on the other side of the tough times.

Do you need some help creating a better marriage? One on one coaching may be just what you need. If not, perhaps my marriage webinars might suit you: Check it out here. Also, you may simply want to learn 10 secrets for creating a happier marriage.

Hey, leave your thoughts in the box below. I’m eager to know what’s on your mind and I will read them.

I appreciate you, Michelle

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